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Patricia E. Graffam

Published: May 5, 2021 18 Condolences

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1939 – 2021

Killingly – Patricia E. (White) Graffam, 81, of Westcott Rd., died Tuesday, May 4, 2021 in Davis Place Nursing Home. Born in Old Lyme, she was the daughter of the late Ernest and Cora (Robbins) White.

Mrs. Graffam was employed in the Environmental Services Department at Foxwoods Resort & Casino. Patricia enjoyed collecting frogs and going to yard sales but, above all she cherished the quality time that she spent with her grandchildren and great grandchildren.

Patricia is survived by her children, Ronald Swabby of Uncasville, Frank Swabby of Killingly, Thomas Swabby of FL, Robin Bourey of Danielson, and Renee Graffam of Plainfield; her siblings, Teresa Dow of Moosup, Nancy Huener of FL, Mary Grayley of Plainfield, and Russell White of Baltic; and numerous grandchildren, great grandchildren, nieces, and nephews. She was predeceased by her children, Phillip Swabby and Nancy Graffam and her brothers, James, Victor, and Phillip White.

Relatives and friends are invited to attend a graveside service on Monday, May 17, 2021, at 1:00p.m. in All Hallows Cemetery, Green Hallow Rd., Moosup, CT. Funeral arrangements have been entrusted to the Gilman Funeral Home & Crematory, 104 Church St., Putnam, CT 06260. For memorial guestbook visit www.GilmanAndValade.com.

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Condolence Messages

  1. Bonnie & Guy Martinson

    May 5, 2021 at 4:39 pm

    Rest In Peace Pat. Robin, & family please know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Call if you need anything. Sending lots of love from NM. Bonnie & Guy

  2. Pete and Shirley Trudeau

    May 5, 2021 at 5:07 pm

    We are so sorry for your loss Robin and the entire White family.Prayers and thoughts are coming your way

  3. Sharon Deno

    May 5, 2021 at 5:21 pm

    Robin, Ron and Family,
    I am so sorry to learn of your Mom’s passing. While all the normal condolences can express how each person feels during this time of grieving, it never quite compares to what each of you are and will go through. I wish you all God’s blessings to help you get through all you will go through. If you need an ear, I am here and will listen, cry, scream, stamp my feet with you. Know that you will all be in my prayers.

    Love you guys, Sharon and Jerry Deno

  4. Holley beaulieu cna

    May 5, 2021 at 7:39 pm

    I enjoyed caring for you for the past 4 years. I loved talking to you and having our complaining sessions when the day wasnt going good or ur roommate drove u nuts. . You always asked about my son we shared pictures and memories. I know u are finally pain free and at peace old friend. I may you be in heaven looking down always. R.I.P. my old friend u till we meet again

  5. Colette Poudrette

    May 5, 2021 at 8:17 pm

    My sympathies to the entire family. May loving memories ease the sorrow of your lose. God bless you.

  6. Michelle dasilva

    May 5, 2021 at 8:31 pm

    Rene I’m so sorry for the loss in your mom sending prayers and hugs to the family my condolences

  7. Noreen Robbins

    May 5, 2021 at 8:45 pm

    Remembering the good times , when the kids were small and you would visit uncle George and Aunt Ednas,those were good times and good memories I have ,May you Rest In Peace, and watch over your family from above,

  8. Alfred E. Mowry

    May 6, 2021 at 9:46 am

    To the family of Patricia E. ( White ) Graffam, I am so sorry to hear of your loss of your Mom, although I only knew 2 of her Children, Renee Graffam and the Late Nancy Graffam as I had the pleasure of working with them in the past, I know how you must feel as I lost both my Parents when I was very young. May Your Mom Rest In Peace, her job here on Earth is over, now it is time to rest. God Bless you one and all.

  9. Sandi Robbins McCurdy

    May 6, 2021 at 10:41 am

    I was sorry to of your loss,great memories of growing up with the White family.RIP Pat.

  10. Madelyn Robbins

    May 6, 2021 at 11:49 am

    I am very for your loss,and will keep her in my prayers.

  11. Madelyn Robbins

    May 6, 2021 at 11:52 am

    I am very sorry for your loss,I will keep her in my prayers.

  12. Michele L Bollenbach

    May 6, 2021 at 12:36 pm

    Sending thoughts and Prayers to Robin and the rest of the family at this difficult time. Know you are all in our thoughts and Prayers.

    Robin, Wayne
    Miche & Mike
    Orlando FL

  13. Dolly Graffam

    May 6, 2021 at 2:03 pm

    So sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers to all.

  14. Jackie brooks

    May 6, 2021 at 5:25 pm

    May you know that she is with the Lord , and may that bring you peace.

  15. Kimberly Graffam Brooks

    May 6, 2021 at 6:21 pm

    Such a wonderful woman with a great sense of humor, though we lost touch many years ago, i will always remember your laugh. Big hugs Renee and the rest of the family.

  16. Connie LaMountain

    May 8, 2021 at 7:01 pm

    Pat, We had some pretty WILD TIMES. You will be missed. Robin, Frank,Ronnie,Tommy ,& Renee I’m so very sorry for your loss. Your Mom was AMAZING.. Teresa So Sorry for your loss as well. Sending all my LOVE. AND PRAYERS FOR ALL

  17. Doreen Ericson

    May 20, 2021 at 6:28 pm

    My sincere sympathy goes out to each and everyone, love you guys, always keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

  18. morgan

    May 8, 2022 at 9:43 pm

    happy mothers day gram we love you

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