1934 – 2020
Woodstock – Joan (Woodbury) Scandalito, 86, of Laurel Dr., passed away at her home on Sunday, June 7, 2020. She was the high school sweetheart and loving wife of 62 years to the late Daniel J. Scandalito, Sr. Born in Gloucester, MA, she was the daughter of the late Ralph and Hannah (Ernst) Woodbury.
Joan is survived by her sons, Daniel Scandalito, Jr. and his wife Petra of Woodstock, and John Scandalito and his wife Jamie of Pomfret; her daughters, Laura Andert and her husband Michael of Eastford, and Linda White and her husband Kevin of Woodstock; and her grandchildren, Danielle White, Lyndon and his wife Virginia White, Daniel Scandalito, Olivia Andert, Maria Scandalito, Julia Scandalito, and Sophia Scandalito; and her beautiful great granddaughter Evelyn White.
A family graveside service for Joan is scheduled for Friday, June 12, 2020 at 10:30 a.m. in Elmvale Cemetery, 450 Roseland Park Rd., Woodstock, CT. For memorial guestbook visit www.GilmanAndValade.com.
A Letter of Love to Joan From Her Loving Children
We hope you know how much we loved you. Although we kissed and hugged and told you we loved you every time we saw you, it does not seem like enough. We are so grateful and blessed to have you as our mother.
We hope you know how much you impacted our lives. You made us who we are. You are our foundation. You gave us a wonderful, stable life as we grew up. You protected us when we needed care. You helped us with our homework when we struggled.
Despite the many medical challenges, you faced in the last 45 years and the loss of your hearing, you never complained – ever. You showed us strength, resilience, persistence, and a never-ending positive attitude.
You gave us memories that will never be erased. You welcomed our spouses into the family when we married. You gave our children your boundless love and memories that will last them forever. We are so happy you were able to do the same with your first great grandchild.
You showed us your wit until the last minutes of your life. That makes us cry but makes us happy at the same time.
We are not sure what life without you will look like. Who is going to send us a goodnight text ending in “XXXOOO” or a “Good Morning” text with smiles? How can we imagine coming to your house and not having you to talk to and hug? It will take some time. We will figure it out and we will be fine, but it will be because of the inspiration and memories you have instilled in us.
Please continue to embrace us with your love and look over us for the rest of our lives. Let us cry for now. We need to. We know we can never match your level of strength. You are like Superwoman. We will carry your love and memories with us and pass them on. Your thoughtfulness for others, your perseverance, wit, and caring nature will continue to inspire us forever. We miss you. We love you. We thank you for being our mother and for the lives you have given us.
Dan, Laura, Linda and John