Attending funerals is not something most people do on a regular basis, so when it comes to sending condolences, figuring out what to wear, and attending the service, it is helpful to have some guidance.

Condolences: There are several ways to offer your condolences to a family who has just lost a loved one: offering verbal condolences and sharing a story, mailing a card or bringing one at the time of the service, writing a condolence on the online obituary, or sending a floral arrangement to the service.

Clothing: Traditionally, everyone wore black to a funeral. Today it is acceptable to wear a wider variety of colors, prints, and patterns while still dressing conservatively. Dress as you would to a job interview or to church.

Attending Services: Attending the service is an eloquent statement that you care. When you arrive at the funeral home or place of service, it is important that your cell phone be turned off. When you sign the register book, make sure to list your name and relationship to the deceased. The register book is something the family will keep forever, and they will refer to it, so they will appreciate knowing who came for years to come.